It is solved by listening.
Solvitur Audiendo
lis·ten·ing
/ˈlis(ə)niNG/
noun
give one’s attention to a sound.
Listening – we all think we do it. But what we think of as listening is often really just waiting for our chance to talk. Check out this solvitur for insights about how (and why) to listen better – or to be reminded that how moving it is to feel we’ve been truly heard.
QUOTES
Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply. (Stephen R. Covey)
One of the most sincere forms of respect is actually listening to what another has to say. (Bryant H. McGill)
The first duty of love is to listen. (Paul Tillich)
You can’t fake listening. It shows. (Raquel Welch)
When you talk, you are only repeating what you already know. But if you listen, you may learn something new. (Dalai Lama)
You cannot truly listen to anyone and do anything else at the same time. (
It’s not at all hard to understand a person; it’s only hard to listen without bias. (
It takes a great man to be a good listener. (
When people talk, listen completely. Most people never listen. (Ernest Hemingway)
Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak; courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen. (Winston Churchill)
Wisdom is the reward you get for a lifetime of listening when you would have rather talked. (Mark Twain)
We have two ears and only one tongue in order that we may hear more and speak less. (
Friends are those rare people who ask how we are, and then wait to hear the answer.
The humble listen to their brothers and sisters because they assume they have something to learn. They are open to correction, and they become wiser through it. (
YOUTUBE VIDEOS
FIVE WAYS TO LISTEN BETTER
Julian Treasure offers five ways to re-tune your ears for conscious listening in this TED Talk.
THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN HEARING AND LISTENING
Octogenarian composer and sound art pioneer Pauline Oliveros describes the sound experiment that led her to found an institute related to Deep Listening, and develop it as a theory relevant to music, psychology, and our collective quality of life. TEDx Talk – Indianapolis
THE POWER OF LISTENING
William Ury presents at a TEDx Talk in San Diego and explains how listening is an essential – but often overlooked – element of communication.
IELTS LISTENING TEST
The IELTS Listening Test – The listener will be given time to read through the questions before you listen. You will hear each recording of the Listening test only once. Designed for candidates for the International English Language Testing System, headquartered in Britain.
BEING A GOOD LISTENER
The School of Life offers this video about how hear a lot about how to speak well in public, but very little about how to learn the equally important art of listening properly to others.
THE POWER OF DELIBERATE LISTENING
Ronnie Polaneczky, a journalist for thirty years & a columnist at the Philadelphia Daily News explains that when deep listening becomes a deliberate practice, like a muscle to be exercised, we open new creative spaces in our lives for connecting with others and fully expressing ourselves.
WEBSITES
THE ART OF LISTENING WELL
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Inc. Magazine reminds us to forget about what we were going to say next and to make sure we hear what the other person says. Six tips for learning to listen well.
FIVE BENEFITS OF LISTENING
Jan Johnston Osburn notes that we can all spout off endless rhetoric but listening? Great listeners are not so common. Try it this week. Listen more than you speak and see what happens. [LinkedIn]
LISTENING TO PEOPLE
HBR highlights the importance of listening and offers suggestions on how to build awareness of listening. (from a 1957 issue!)
THE ART OF ATTENTIVE LISTENING
Encouraging good listening helps employees work together better as a team, and promotes innovative thinking and more effective communication. Adina Miron of eSkill shares some of the basics of attentive listening.
SIX WAYS TO BECOME A BETTER LISTENER
Ever zone out while someone is talking? Of course. We all do. The average human has an eight-second attention span. With electronic distractions competing for your time and an abundance of responsibilities at work, it makes listening attentively to someone else speak pretty difficult.
THE WISDOM OF LISTENING
Throughout the Bible, God commands us to listen. In order to discern how God commands us to listen, the author decided while in Bible college to engage in a semester-long study of what the Proverbs had to say about listening. He explains why it was one of the more fulfilling studies he had ever undertaken.
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